Don't worry, you will find out soon enough, if you play your cards right!

Or he could have tried a muppet forum. Either way Linc would have responded:whistle:

BP-Revo . . . if I were you I would really watch this guy. Someone that doesn't get it with something like this - usually carries that same characteristic with other things. In other words, even if everything works out on this deal a guy like your "friend" will end up being trouble later. Not for sure, but that's been my experience. I stay away from people with poor judgement - too easy for them to drag me into a bad situation.

Sincerely,
Mike Tyson

I often quietly laugh to myself while reading this forum but not this time. Nice.

kidding
 

Are you kidding me. How many of you guys watch the UFC fights? Don't tell me that we don't like violence. If he gives you any more crap just ask linc to send over a couple of his "Butler Monkies" to take care of the situation. Just kidding. Violence is never a good way to handle personal situations. Like it was stated most of the guys on here are a little bit older and give good advice for these kinds of situations. A show of force is sometimes needed, but usually only as a last resort when all else has failed. For the most part the intellectual approach is always more productive. Besides your first concern should be her position in all of this. As long as your relationship with her is in the right place, then she can handle him on her own, unless she asks you for assistance with the matter. She also needs to know that you trust her for her own self esteem. Women never like it when men interfere like they are too weak to take care of themselves. On the other hand if you approach your friend with communications about this and he plays it off, then he is only trying to get your goat and rall you up for his own entertainment.

Well, here is an update. Apparently since the beginning my "friend" has been trying to sabotage what her and I have. He has been twisting what I say and making stuff up and just telling her random anything to get her to stop seeing me. In any case, it hasn't worked, or at least it seems it hasn't. She was the one who told me that he was doing all this, and she too is angry at him for trying to do this. So I guess his true colors have been revealed, not a friend at the very least.

At least I now know to never lift my finger for him. I did a pathetic amount of things for him. I actually dragged him along on one of our dates because he had gotten high (weed) and I wasn't going to allow him to drive himself home in that condition, so I dragged him along with her and I to the beach, dinner, etc. Furthermore, I took him to the Long Beach Grand Prix. These tickets were in the thousand dollar range as they were pit row suite tickets, had full garage and pit access, and included a pace car ride. And while I was doing all this stuff (and more) for him, he was still trying to sabotage her and I.

I am actually somewhat glad this happened, as I now know the kind of person he really is and it also showed that despite all his BS she still stayed there and payed attention to what I said and did.

Yeah, don't talk to him. Just shut him out and focus on being a nice guy to your girl. Also, be cool when he's around. Don't let him get you frustrated or riled up. You got the girl, so act like you're the $h!t.

As I said, he sounds like a douche bag to me. Just ignore him, and he will go away.

Good News
 

Well this is good news, because you have the upper hand in things now. His secret game is not secret any longer. You know what to expect from him and you no longer will play his game. There are a million ways to handle just about any situation and you have to find what works for you. Like it was posted I would just shut him out and take away any chance for him to mess things up between you and your woman. Since she seems to be pretty open about the whole thing ask her what she thinks and how she would like to deal with this scumbag. Keep his in the loop and let her more or less guide your approach to the matter. I will let her know that she can trust you and that you appreciate her opinion in tough matters. She is the most important person in all of this, and you need to keep it that way.

Focus your attention on her and have fun. Life goes by pretty quickly and we tend to miss a lot more than we know. Good luck with that.

LOL good thread!!

Your friend is a POS and you need to get rid of the looser trying to drag you down.. Your friend is a complete ass trying to hook up with your girl, its alright though at least you seen it early.

Yeah, and she just informed me he again invited her to go cosmic bowling on Friday. Idiot doesn't know when to lay off. She turned him down instantly of course...I wonder how many times she's gonna have to do that before he gets the hint (She hasn't ever accepted a single one of his invitations to date, yet he keeps trying).

I applaud you for having SOOOOO much patience with this guy. I would have mashed his face in a long time ago. :whistle:

I dunno, I admit I'm more impressed than angry, but more annoyed than impressed. Annoying because when her and I hang out she gets massive amounts of texts from him and it just kills it. But I'm impressed as hell with his stupidity...first for going after a taken girl, second for not taking a hint and giving up when he's been turned down so many times, and third for what appears to be an honest belief that there is nothing wrong with what he is doing.

What the ----? He's text-spamming her, too? You should ask her to shut off her phone while you're out together. Just say you prefer the additional privacy...

He aims her every night, texts her 24/7, and calls her too...

Idiot does NOT know when to give up.

For her birthday her sister and I planned out this whole elaborate scheme. I was to take her out to this vendor fair she wanted to go to, then I was to take her to dinner where her sister and a bunch of her friends were going to be waiting (as a surprise).

However, he wanted to take her to see a movie, alone. He told me that he was going to do this - didn't ask me, told me. I told him no he wasn't, cause it would screw up the plan her sister and I spent like a week and a half thinking up. He flips the hell out claiming that he thought of taking her to the movies before we thought of the plan, and that means he got first dibs on her. Its not like she ever chooses him anyway, but I'm waiting for the day where he gives her an ultimatum saying "him or me." Its obvious who she'd choose and I'd like to have her stick it in his face so he might figure it out.

She's too nice though...she feels bad so she doesn't ignore him completely and eventually responds to his texts.

Man, at this point I'd be cutting my losses and just move on. Yeah, she may technically choose you, but her being nice to this guy is just encouraging the situation. Your "friend" isn't a friend and needs a kick in the teeth, and the girl just needs to tell this guy how it is and to seriously back off. Just my $0.02...

She needs to be the one to tell this guy it aint gonna happen and to quit it. Untill she puts it no uncertain terms he aint gonna get it.

Why would you even invite this ass munch to the party anyway? I wouldnt even have told him about it. Just made the plans with her and when he asked her to the movies, she was already busy.

Being nice and understanding will only lead this guy on. You might want to discuss this with her and point this out. He is obviously obsessed with her, does she know what that will lead to? She may find it flattering to have all of his attention, but what happens when she gets tired of it? After letting this go on for a while, telling him to quit will not work. This kind of BS has to be taken care of quickly and decisively.

Plus you can let her know that you find the entire situation unacceptable and that it directly conflicts with your belief system of how a relationship is conducted. Put your foot down, you do wear the pants, remember! No need to be mean, or nasty, just make sure you are firm and stick to your principles.

And if she does not want to do anything, you may want to consider finding someone else. It is obvious what your "friend" is trying to do. This guy really sounds desperate, maybe there is something wrong with him mentally? You might try having him committed, if only for analysis!

For what it is worth, I do know a bunch of marines in San Diego. You could accidentally PM me his address and a pic. Voila, no more aggravation. And the marines will only want beer...

lol Linc...marines eh? Too bad I can't buy beer.

I think the BIGGEST problem here is that he is just an idiot, simply put. He doesn't see hints when they hit him in the face and knock him over and he also doesn't understand anything about girls or how to get one. He doesn't understand the difference between a girlfriend a friend thats a girl.

She's taking care of it, so I'm good. She knows how I feel about it and she says she'd take care of it all, and I trust her. I think if anything I'm just impressed about how persistent he is...though this persistence is annoying, its still impressive...

since
 

Since he is so irritationg and doesn't seem to get hints you could have some fun with him. Just walk up and quietly share with him that when you and your girl are together and he calls that you two get a good laugh out of it. He obviously does not think or care about your feelings, so why in the world should you care about his. Like the pimp said you have to put the brakes on him right away and let this nutbag know where he stands in the relationship. Either this guy is out of touch with reality or he is truly not your friend. You and your girl need to get this situation under control immediately before this fruitloop looses his mind and blows a gasket. Maybe he just does not get that you two are an item. The two of yu need to make that obvious for him to see.

Yeah, you both need to walk up to him together and say "HI (insert name here)!" and then just make-out like crazy! Right in front of him! If that doesn't get the point across nothing will! :lol:

I like this idea, maybe I should give it a try to the wife? With one of her friends! That may be taking it a bit too far?!

Having marital issues, lincpimp? :lol:

No, but I will if I make out with another girl in front of the wife!

Haha! Unless your wife was part of the 0.001% of women who wouldn't care...

Think
 

Come on man think about it. If linc's wife were to make out in front of him what do you think that he would do? Knowing that do you think his wife would let him off the hook? Not a chance. She would cut his jewels off and hand them to him. I do like that idea though to get the point accross to this moron. Just set up the moment when you know he will be in the room and just start making out in front of him. If that does not get the point into his thick head, then nothing will. If he is really brave or just plain stupid he may try to join in on the event. Either way please do share the results of that one with us here at RCM.:yes::yipi:

I think it's time for a nice heart to heart talk with him, in person, in private. I would let him know in no uncertain terms what he is doing is unappreciated and unwanted, this is the way things are and he needs to deal with it and move on. Let him know that if pushed further you will have to change your approach to the situation. Leave it at that and let him imagine what your further actions will be. Never bring up fighting or anything else and don't let him get you riled up. Say it with confidence and force but do not yell. A lot of times being calm and collected yet firm and forceful can really put the message across better than anything else and leaving a little unknown in there (ie: your further actions) adds to the intimidation factor.

This is something I have learned in management that is quite effective. You often have to deal with all types and many of these will be tough. Always play your cards tight against your chest as not to show your hand and always leave your options open. Try never to make specific threats in other words.

If it gets past a certain point, you may have to "slap the guy down" so to speak. I am not suggesting using physical violence but you will need to find a course of escalation that really pushes the point across. What that course is is entirely up to you and what you feel is best situated to address the problem.

I can't believe this thread is on page 5 :neutral: