This type of thing can be done with Deans just as easily (actually, probably easier):
Just hook the mini-deans up first, wait ~10 seconds, then hook up the main leads.
The resistor in the pic above is based on 1,000uF ESC total capacitance and an approximately 10 second charge time. The actual formula for picking the resistor value is:
R = S / 5 / C
R= Resistor in ohms
S= Time in seconds
C= Capacitance in farads
So, if your ESC has three 330uF caps (990uF total) and you want them charged in 5 seconds, the resistor to use would be 1010 ohms, or 1k.
The required resistor power rating can be found by the formula:
P = V^2 / R * 2
P= Power in watts
V= Battery voltage
R= Resistance in ohms
So, for a battery voltage of 22.2v (6s) and a 1k ohm resistor, use a 1W resistor.