i have a savage with a mamba max and 4s true rc lipo...i just burned out my second 9xl in a week

the first i attributed to the fact that i crashed and smashed the esc...now i have a new esc and motor and all of a sudden the car stopped and wouldnt stop cogging, i checked the motor and it was 258

yup, that'll kill it...why on earth did this happen? the esc was 165 and the battery was 125...i was running for about 30 min...im running a 20t pinion and a 49t spur. i was doing some high speed runs if that makes a difference. is it possible that the brakes are rubbing a little and causing the heat?...they seem to catch very slightly, i dont think it would be enough to cause this though...im obviously doing something very wrong, any help would be appreciated
also, the shrinkwrap on the negative deans connection on the battery split open (melted?)
i just did some testing...the car will cogg indefinitely from a standstill but if i give a it a good push and ease on the throttle itl go but i cant punch it i have to ease in, and in about 30 seconds the motor was 150 and the esc was 190...will a dead motor make the esc heat up like that?
any help i can get here is great, im completely stumped