Caleb's leaving....

[_paralyzed_]

I've had my twelve year old son Caleb for the past three weeks and he's leaving tomorrow:( We've had such a blast. We spent 11 hours straight at the Mall of America, fixed and broke every one of my r/c's, played music together, had the birds and bees discussion, have logged probably 10 hours playing monopoly, cooked, dined out, watched movies and had video game marathons. I'm gonna miss my little buddy. I love him so much. That's his name tatted on my arm.......

[OZ-RUSTLER]

Good times Great to hear.
His mum must be good looking

[PBO]

Jeez, that's tough. That must be a really hard thing to deal with...he looks like a great kid

[_paralyzed_]

He is, he's the best kid ever. That's not just biased bullshit, everyone that meets him says that. I wish he were MORE selfish and LESS giving, he always puts others first and I want him to get his.

He plays guitar, violin, piano and dabbles with the clarinet. He's awesome with younger kids, a born leader. He took a week long Childrens theatre class just before I got him and was the tin man in the wizard of Oz! He's polite and courteous, mature for his age, a whiz at video games and I think even smarter than me! We go back and forth winning strategy games such as chess. BEST KID EVER!

I'm f'ing torn up over him leaving tomorrow and can't sleep worth a damn so here I am on the internets.

[rabosi]

I totally understand what your feeling. I don't recall if divorce is part of your equation, but it is for me. Early on I always questioned whether I should have stuck it out for the kid's sake. It's even worse when you have a really good relationship with your kid, as you do. Hang in there brother.

[TexasSP]

Good looking boy you got! I can't imagine sending mine off and not having him at home all of the time. Glad you two had an awesome time together and have such a good relationship. I'll keep you in my prayers bro, I know it's got to be tough!

[lutach]

Originally Posted by _paralyzed_

That's his name tatted on my arm.......

Priceless.

[JERRY2KONE]

Good to see you. Yea it sucks going through things like that. We all have our crosses to bare. We owe it to ourselves to find the good in every situation and keep pushing forward. Life does not wait for any man. Sure it sucks that he is going home, but you had a great 3 weeks, and when will he be back for more? That is what you have to focus on man.

As you know I had similar circumstances in the passed, until the EX's warrenty ran out. After seven years of putting up with her shit the kids are finally with me now. I love them very much, but my EX and their former step-father really screwed their heads up. We have been working very hard to get them up to speed with where they should be. At least you have a good kid who's head is on straight. Thank God for your blessings Harold. It really is good to see that you have such a good relationship with your son. That is very cool. My oldest boy now 25 hated me for not being there throughout his childhood, but now he see's how things really were back then, and our relationship is great now. A lot of us really get screwed by the EX's, so you are in good shape from what we can see Harold. You have to smile for your son, and let him know how proud of him you are. That is the most important thing of all. We are here for you Bro.

[magman]

Harold, hang in there. Your son sound like a great kid. Pat yourself on the back for that blessing. I can't immagine leaving my daughter for any length of time. She is my angel and gets me through rough times w/just a smile. Even though my wife and I will split w/in a year, I know that the bond I have w/my daughter is unbreakable. Children are the only true/pure gifts...spending only a small amount of time w/them or a lot of time, we all need to be thankful for our gifts.

I know your are hurt by your son leaving..hang in there and I will say a prayer for you and your son.

By the way..that is a great picture of you and your son!

[zeropointbug]

That really is priceless. Most of us don't realize how much we love the ones closest to us until they are got. Cherish every moment.

[jayjay283]

Looks like an awesome child bro, he has kind eyes and an "ive had a good life smile". Congrats on raising him well. Unlike the cretins I inherited (wifes 2 nephews) stealing from me, breaking all my stuff and having the 5.0 rolling over here dumping them off 4 times this summer. Then again your boy isn't 16 yet lol... Keep the whip cracked !!! Spanking is NOT a crime heheh

[PBO]

Originally Posted by _paralyzed_

He is, he's the best kid ever

I'm f'ing torn up over him leaving tomorrow and can't sleep worth a damn so here I am on the internets.

I'm sure he knows just how much you love him & that's worth more than anything in the world. Doesn't make it any easier though

[snellemin]

That's a good looking kid and based on what your are saying, did a darn good job raising him well.

[mkrusedc]

Harold,

That sucks being without him, but as a father you want your child to be the best that he can. It sounds like you have already done that. Congrats! All of us that have kids hope our children will turn out like yours.

Mark

[JERRY2KONE]

Originally Posted by mkrusedc

Harold,

That sucks being without him, but as a father you want your child to be the best that he can. It sounds like you have already done that. Congrats! All of us that have kids hope our children will turn out like yours.

Mark

Isn't that the truth. We all struggle to teach our kids all the good things that we either did or wished that we had done. It's that free will thing that is really tough to deal with, but we all have it. Our parents try to teach us right and wrong, but it is all up to us which way we turn out. Kids today are really even more defiant then we were for the most part, and they are determind to do things their own way. It sounds like you are doing pretty well with your son Harold. Count your blessings, and hope that things keep going in that direction. As long as he lives in a relatively good environment with strong roll models to learn from he should be ok.