Who stays and who goes?

[skellyo]

Originally Posted by fastbaja5b

..well at the moment I work 55 hrs a week (2 jobs) she's not working right now, always seems to be sick, and when she has a full time job she's home sick maybe 1 day in 5-10 on average. I put all my coin in the joint account and allow myself $50 a fortnight for my hobby.

But apparantly I am the unreasonable one.

Is she bad sick or something like allergies acting up sick? Being sick on average more than once a week, IMO, she either has a chronic issue or she's a hypochondriac.

[fastbaja5b]

Originally Posted by skellyo

Is she bad sick or something like allergies acting up sick? Being sick on average more than once a week, IMO, she either has a chronic issue or she's a hypochondriac.

Do hypochondriac's ever admit to being hypochondriacs?

[lincpimp]

Originally Posted by fastbaja5b

Do hypochondriac's ever admit to being hypochondriacs?

Maybe trying to hide their issues in plain sight?

[Semi Pro]

Originally Posted by fastbaja5b

Do hypochondriac's ever admit to being hypochondriacs?

yes but you have to get alot of people to tell them they are for an extended amount of time ( thats what it took to get my GF to admit she was a hypochondriac)

[lincpimp]

Originally Posted by fastbaja5b

..well at the moment I work 55 hrs a week (2 jobs) she's not working right now, always seems to be sick, and when she has a full time job she's home sick maybe 1 day in 5-10 on average. I put all my coin in the joint account and allow myself $50 a fortnight for my hobby.

But apparantly I am the unreasonable one.

Time to open a seperate acct, and put enough money in to pay the bills. Stop putting money in the joint acct and just tell her you will pay her back if she buys something you both need. Sucks to have to do this but some people just need a dose of reality. I feel like crap some days but if I do not go to work the business will fail. Blessing and a curse to own your own business, as it owns you most of the time. But it drives me to always do more and do it smarter. Tell her to get off her ass and get a job. If she feels bad tell her to get one with medical and then she can get whatever fixed... Hate to tell you to start a fight, but being nice will only make you a nice dumbass...

[Nard Cox]

Originally Posted by fastbaja5b

..well at the moment I work 55 hrs a week (2 jobs) she's not working right now, always seems to be sick, and when she has a full time job she's home sick maybe 1 day in 5-10 on average. I put all my coin in the joint account and allow myself $50 a fortnight for my hobby.

But apparantly I am the unreasonable one.

First off I was going with what georgec said. But after reading the above quote I would keep 'm and tell her to get a job (and work for +- 40 hours a week).

[Finnster]

>_<

Sounds like you got some things to work out... otoh, according to women we are always the unreasonable ones

[BrianG]

I currently have 9 operational vehicles, one not, and one in the process. And unless I get into dire straights, I will not sell any just to make a few bucks. I look at it this way; this hobby keeps me busy and challenged, and hurts no one. I only spend my disposable income on it, so the bills are getting paid. Sure, if I didn't have this hobby (as well as smoking), I'd have quite a bit more cash, but it would only get eaten up with something else. I don't have a problem if my better half goes out and buys doilies, boots, jewelry, picture frames, or any other things I deem useless; it's her disposable income.

I would tell her a couple things if she is insistent:

1) Sacrificing works both ways; if you have to sell something, then she has to sell something of equal value.

2) R/C stuff has a very low resale value considering what is spent on it. If anything, tell her you won't get any more things, but selling what you already have makes no financial sense.

[Finnster]

RC acct FTW.

[fastbaja5b]

Well as it is I've agreed to ditch one, and put the funds in my son's college fund out of her reach, so back to the initial Q I guess. Am leaning twd the Hyper, having raced up to 6mths ago I still have a weakness for it, so if I put the Savage Flux gear in there, how would I gear it? (4s lipo is the local limit) here is a pic as she is now (yes thats a hobbypro motor mount, Mike was [and is?] out of stock of the Hyper mounts *boooo!*)

[_paralyzed_]

Originally Posted by fastbaja5b

if I put the Savage Flux gear in there, how would I gear it?

what tires do you run on it? what spur gear? gear for 35-40mph

[JERRY2KONE]

[QUOTE=fastbaja5b;347374]Well as it is I've agreed to ditch one, and put the funds in my son's college fund out of her reach

So let me share my veiw about college funds. There have been a few studies done about the wealth of having your parents pay for your college as apposed to working your own way through school, or acqiring some level of scholarship. We have five adult children who have all found their own way through college, and in fact one of them is working on her Masters degree right now. None of them recieved or asked us for money, because we raised them with the belief that if they truly want to go to school they will find their own way to do it, and have more respect for where the money is going. With the economy being what it is today saving for your kids to go to school 15 years from now, when you have no idea whether or not they will even go to college is the least of our financial problems. Not finding a happy medium with finances in a family is the number one killer of a marriage. You have to work on, and reach some sort of an agreement to which both parties are somewhat satisfied with their half of the responsibilities. If you can aford it the play money has to be almost on the same level as well or there is going to be jealousy at some point that will explode into arguments that will end your relationship. Along with that needs to be some level of equal input towards paying the way for the lifestyle you have. We are not in the 1950's any more. If you want a woman to respect you then you have to lay down the law in YOUR HOUSEHOLD and stand by your principles. If not then you are doomed to being treated like a child yourself.

[JThiessen]

A little highjack here - Jerry, how did you find a way around the FAFSA forms. They seem almost taylored to spefically make the families pay. I agree with your stance on making the kids responsible for paying their way through (using loans/jobs). But they way the system is set up now, it was impossible for my step-daughter to qualify due to my income. Thats the other part that ticks me off - if I were to divorce my wife (which I dont intend to - at least not today...), all of those loans are in my name, not hers, or the daughter.

[nitrostarter]

Originally Posted by JThiessen

A little highjack here - Jerry, how did you find a way around the FAFSA forms. They seem almost taylored to spefically make the families pay. I agree with your stance on making the kids responsible for paying their way through (using loans/jobs). But they way the system is set up now, it was impossible for my step-daughter to qualify due to my income. Thats the other part that ticks me off - if I were to divorce my wife (which I dont intend to - at least not today...), all of those loans are in my name, not hers, or the daughter.

Same thing happened with my parent's income disqualifying me. Problem was that my parent's took Jerry's approach and I had to fund myself through college even though they forced me to go. Luckily, my scores were good enough to land an almost full ride through 4yrs. I only had to shell out some book and fee money.

Those FAFSA form are exactly that, a deterrent from anything above lower income family to getting public assistant to further their education. Way to go Congress.

[t-maxxracer32]

Originally Posted by JERRY2KONE

So let me share my veiw about college funds. There have been a few studies done about the wealth of having your parents pay for your college as apposed to working your own way through school, or acqiring some level of scholarship. We have five adult children who have all found their own way through college, and in fact one of them is working on her Masters degree right now. None of them recieved or asked us for money, because we raised them with the belief that if they truly want to go to school they will find their own way to do it, and have more respect for where the money is going. With the economy being what it is today saving for your kids to go to school 15 years from now, when you have no idea whether or not they will even go to college is the least of our financial problems. Not finding a happy medium with finances in a family is the number one killer of a marriage. You have to work on, and reach some sort of an agreement to which both parties are somewhat satisfied with their half of the responsibilities. If you can aford it the play money has to be almost on the same level as well or there is going to be jealousy at some point that will explode into arguments that will end your relationship. Along with that needs to be some level of equal input towards paying the way for the lifestyle you have. We are not in the 1950's any more. If you want a woman to respect you then you have to lay down the law in YOUR HOUSEHOLD and stand by your principles. If not then you are doomed to being treated like a child yourself.

Im going to have to disagree about your view on a college fund. My parents have college funds for me, my brother, and sister and if one of us decides not to go to college they can easily pull the money out and stash it in their savings account. They paid in 150(50 each child) a month since each of us were born and now each of us have about 20k for college. You think that if kids arent paying for their college then they will take it as a joke? the only way that happens is if you raise your kids to think that by giving them everything they've ever wanted. I have seen that happen and it is embarrassing, but not all kids are like that. I respect my parents for building this college fund and i am truly blessed that i do not have to graduate with 20-30k in debt by loans. I will be working while going to college, but that will be savings for my future. College is hella expensive now and without college funds or some type of huge grant some kids just cant afford to make it.
Also gotta realize... once parents are too old to work and need assisted living the kids are the one who need to step up to the plate and take care of them! if they never took care of you when you were a child whos to say if you will take care of them