Need some advice...

[t-maxxracer32]

Originally Posted by BP-Revo

Well, good 'ole RCM has never let me down, from asking a girl out to prom, fixing RAID arrays on my computer, and of course all my brushless needs.

So I have yet another bit of advice to ask...

I have a "friend" who I no longer speak to / he no longer speaks to me for whatever reason (he one day just flipped and started treating me like sh!t so I didn't bother calling him anymore and he never called me so whatever). Not a big deal to me since his overall treatment of me wasn't quite up to par despite me treating him very nicely. I treated him to a bunch of stuff - even took him to the Long Beach Grand Prix when I had a spare ticket - they were pit row luxury box seats with catered lunch and a pace car ride too, so they weren't cheap! My dad and I were supposed to go but my dad got sent on a business trip so he said I could take whoever - I regret it now...sorely.

So now the issue is that this tool is a bit obsessed with my girlfriend (for those that remember - same girl I took to prom - been almost 2 years now). He out of the blue will message her on AIM or send her a text message and she'll respond out of courtesy and he'll immediately start trashing on me (making stuff up) in the hopes she'll break up with me or something. She tells me every time this happens and we both laugh at how pathetic it is.

However, I've recently learned that he's kind of been stalking a few other girls. I have to say he's a little obsessive. He liked this one girl and asked her out a bunch of times (way more than the 3 try rule) and even after she made clear she wasn't interested he was still all over her...and still is.

I looked up sociopath and he (very eerily) matches the criteria almost perfectly down to the letter.

So, my question is, should I go have a talk with him and make it clear he's to not talk to my girl at all or should I let him have his random text messages and AIM messages?

Any advice welcome.

I think a lot of it has to do with how your GF is handling it all. If he is just awkwardly friendly with her and it doesn't bother her then Id say stay away and let him be. If he is really a sociopath and you confront him he might flip out and go on a killing spree

I watch too much criminal minds

seriously though if he is not freaking your girlfriend out or anything then let him be. Once he crosses the line then you can step in and take some action.

Now if you are truly worried about him and the other girls he is stalking maybe talk to his parents if you still know them well enough.

Worse comes to worse you confront him and let him know that he needs to chill. Just don't come off too aggressive and ready to fight because if he does have mental issues he may not be so stable.

[BP-Revo]

Originally Posted by t-maxxracer32

I think a lot of it has to do with how your GF is handling it all. If he is just awkwardly friendly with her and it doesn't bother her then Id say stay away and let him be. If he is really a sociopath and you confront him he might flip out and go on a killing spree

I watch too much criminal minds

seriously though if he is not freaking your girlfriend out or anything then let him be. Once he crosses the line then you can step in and take some action.

Now if you are truly worried about him and the other girls he is stalking maybe talk to his parents if you still know them well enough.

Worse comes to worse you confront him and let him know that he needs to chill. Just don't come off too aggressive and ready to fight because if he does have mental issues he may not be so stable.

At worst he's 5'7" and 110lbs. I'm 6'2" and more than double the weight.

I don't know his parents well enough to talk to them (not that he respects his parents much anyway - he calls his mother a "stupid bitch" in front of us when we are at his house...makes for some very uncomfortable situations when she's staring him down but biting her tongue due to our presence).

I can't confront him about the other girls since he'll probably just deny it.

I have to say that he is one of those people that when you confront him he just blatantly says "I can do what I want" and pulls some BS reasoning out of his butt, or else I would have said something much earlier on.

It was just like back when my girl and I started dating. He wanted to take her to the movies alone and when I asked him what the hell he's said "I want to hang out with her and I can if I want." I nearly tore his head off that day but I simply just told her to ignore any invites he sent out.