So, today I made alternative tie rods from the parts of the older upper arms and a stainless M5 rod.
It held up to 3~4 "full" speed crashes/rolls. My old gears also went in the truck - and surprisingly it held up to the power! I did 5 minutes of driving on packed, dried mud, but also a few runs on asphalt. Heating becomes a real problem after 5 minutes, so I have to get the cooling in place. (still waiting for the stuff)
After a few minutes of driving I measured the temp on the center diff and the motor, the diff was 10degC higher than the motor. At the end of the driving the motor was 80degC, so I guess the lifetime will be "limited"..
So far, grass is the worst in terms of Amp draw.