A girlfriend learns the hard way.

[Finnster]

I have no idea. Maybe the guy is an idiot and the GF is just waking up to that fact and trying to judge it before she dumps his ass, or perhaps he'll cool and she's a busybody fat cow trying to make him as miserable as she is.

Who knows on one post? Maybe she's just asking "experts" if they bought into a moneypit or not, and a long-winded overly-dramatic lecture to the chick that she should be fixing his crap car, washing his feet and meekly giving out blowies, just because she may have suggested the Cherokee is a flaming pile of Chrysler crap, may be a bit over the top

[simplechamp]

Originally Posted by Finnster

Who knows on one post? Maybe she's just asking "experts" if they bought into a moneypit or not, and a long-winded overly-dramatic lecture to the chick that she should be fixing his crap car, washing his feet and meekly giving out blowies, just because she may have suggested the Cherokee is a flaming pile of Chrysler crap, may be a bit over the top

That's what I mainly took issue with. Sounds like the guy who responded is seriously projecting his own insecurities and issues with women. If a woman chooses to accept that role in a relationship that's one thing, but expecting it of them is totally different.

[JERRY2KONE]

Originally Posted by simplechamp

That's what I mainly took issue with. Sounds like the guy who responded is seriously projecting his own insecurities and issues with women. If a woman chooses to take accept that role in a relationship that's one thing, but expecting it of them is totally different.

I do not think he was expecting anything of her, hence the post. Some youg girls learn very well if you start the teaching early enough. My wife believes and supports me just as suggested, because I return the favor whenever I am able to. Support goes both ways.

OHH, the good old days.

[JERRY2KONE]

Originally Posted by Finnster

I have no idea. Maybe the guy is an idiot and the GF is just waking up to that fact and trying to judge it before she dumps his ass, or perhaps he'll cool and she's a busybody fat cow trying to make him as miserable as she is.

Who knows on one post? Maybe she's just asking "experts" if they bought into a moneypit or not, and a long-winded overly-dramatic lecture to the chick that she should be fixing his crap car, washing his feet and meekly giving out blowies, just because she may have suggested the Cherokee is a flaming pile of Chrysler crap, may be a bit over the top

Ahhh don't be a Chrysler hater now. This was about a chick showing up on a Jeep site wanting support for her dislike of her boytoy putting so much work and money into a car, and not her. She would have done well if she posted up on a plastic surgery for girls site, but not where a bunch of redneck dudes are waiting for the deer to wonder by their tree stand, while thinking about the next project to lift their jeeps up to clear even bigger bolders. Wrong place at the wrong time.

Originally Posted by JERRY2KONE

Ahhh don't be a Chrysler hater now. This was about a chick showing up on a Jeep site wanting support for her dislike of her boytoy putting so much work and money into a car, and not her. She would have done well if she posted up on a plastic surgery for girls site, but not where a bunch of redneck dudes are waiting for the deer to wonder by their tree stand, while thinking about the next project to lift their jeeps up to clear even bigger bolders. Wrong place at the wrong time.

I feel like everyone is drawing conclusions and making assumptions about her and her relationship off of just a few sentences. How do you know that her boyfriend is her boy toy? When did she complain about him not paying attention to her? When did she ask for support in anything? It seems to me that she was just asking advice on what would be best for her boyfriend to do to his truck and how much he would get for selling it. There's no context or background.




I guess one of the things that kind of bothers me is that if this was reversed and it was a guy talking about how much money and work his girlfriend was putting in to shopping or some other girly thing, the responses would probably be along the lines of "dump her". I highly doubt you'd get a response saying that he should just suck it up, read some fashion mags, go shopping with her, make her food, and that her shopping is "none of his business" all while calling him a "dreamkiller" and "turn (her) into just another miserable (girl)".

[JERRY2KONE]

Not me man. I would first be wondering how he could get up the courage to post up on a site full of men complaining about his girl buying handbags. I would say be a man and stop being a wuss. Grow some and set things straight. Things like this have to be on a somewhat even scale so the spending balances out. My wife has her hobbies and jewlery stuff too and I do not interfer in her decisions regarding those areas, and she does not interfer in my stuff either. Being in a relationship should never be about control on either side. Find the common ground and keep the playing field even. Don't be greedy or try telling her what she can and/or cannot do. If you have to go there, then you are already in trouble. Talk with one another and make sure that you listen to.