my ignorance has led me into a situation.

[TexasSP]

Personally, I would ask some women their perspective on what giving a diamond ring means to them. Maybe ask a friend of hers who won't betray your trust. We can all speculate but I think you need to get a little closer to the source on this one.

In my experience, and being married myself, a diamond ring from you to her in her mind means one thing. Solitaire or not, as my wife's was not a solitaire. She actually likes band rings better with smaller diamonds.

Either way, check with someone besides a bunch of dudes in an rc forum.

[brainanator]

Just call it a "Promise Ring". Girls make up all kinds of silly names for jewelry.

Originally Posted by TexasSP

Either way, check with someone besides a bunch of dudes in an rc forum.

Good point. Some of us haven't been laid in almost a year and a few, probably never. So what would we know about a womans needs anyway?

You know your girl and your situation better than anyone else on here, if you aren't ready to get engaged, don't do it. You probably want to have something more planned anyhow. I'd say you really have two options, give her something else and save/return the ring, or give her the ring as you had originally intended, but possibly preface it with saying something that distinguishes it as just a gift and not as any sort of commitment or engagement. I just gave my girl a diamond ring last night for our anniversary and she didn't assume it was an engagement ring. If you guys have talked about waiting a bit to get married, she probably won't assume it's an engagement ring, but you know her better than anyone else.

Good luck!

[_paralyzed_]

why would you let what anybody else says change what you are doing?

You wanted to give her a ring, so give her a ring. If she questions it say that it is to match her necklace and earrings- the truth.

And if she looks at all disappointed when you say it is not an engagement ring, tell her what you told us- the engagement ring will be much bigger.

Stop second guessing yourself!

[rootar]

Itll all work out good, i just thought this would be funny to let yall read in on my situation.


It is not a solitare, but its pretty close so i guess i should post a picture.

[josh9mille]

Originally Posted by Freezebyte

Some of us haven't been laid in almost a year and a few, probably never. So what would we know about a womans needs anyway?

This confirms soo many things about you Freeze! I just won 20 bucks from about 10 members here. Pay up guys!

[rootar]

Originally Posted by _paralyzed_

why would you let what anybody else says change what you are doing?

You wanted to give her a ring, so give her a ring. If she questions it say that it is to match her necklace and earrings- the truth.

And if she looks at all disappointed when you say it is not an engagement ring, tell her what you told us- the engagement ring will be much bigger.

Stop second guessing yourself!

i had decided this before posting but it was fun hearing other's opinions

[mjosparky]

You'er screwed.

Sparky

[suicideneil]

Maybe ask a friend of hers who won't betray your trust.

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If its ment to be then I wouldnt worry about her getting the wrong idea, just dont go down on one knee when you give it her; if she asks 'what's this?', I'd agree with telling her its to match her other jewelery, so dont panic dear

If however she opens the box, looks at you and flings herself around you whilst yelling 'yes!', then you may have issues telling her its not an engagement ring..

[brian015]

Originally Posted by suicideneil

If however she opens the box, looks at you and flings herself around you whilst yelling 'yes!', then you may have issues telling her its not an engagement ring..

What if, instead, a look of horror comes across her face when she opens it?



I have to say this:

Any woman in a relationship who gets a diamond ring from her man is going to immediately think it's an engagement ring!! (my wife strongly agrees with this statement)

[Finnster]

Originally Posted by josh9mille

This confirms soo many things about you Freeze! I just won 20 bucks from about 10 members here. Pay up guys!

Man, who took the other side of that bet?!




OP: To me it seems like it would be a engagement ring, but at the end of the day depends on your girl and where you guys are at. Since I don't know her, I can't say other than all the views listed could be true. Maybe you bought it yourself knowing what it means and are trying to get yourself to follow thru on it. IDK. Either way GL and congrats on having a nice woman. They are to be treasured.

[lincpimp]

What do you mean Finn? All women are nice*.









* assuming correct payment is made at desired intervals.

[Finnster]

Originally Posted by lincpimp

What do you mean Finn? All women are nice*.









* assuming correct payment is made at desired intervals.

Of course. :) Keeping anything nice requires a lot of maintenance, fees and upkeep, and an inordinate amt of attention and constant devotion. If you work really hard, get all your chores done, maybe you can take her out for a ride on weekend.

Wait what were talking about?

[mjosparky]

Originally Posted by lincpimp

What do you mean Finn? All women are nice*.









* assuming correct payment is made at desired intervals.

They are all nice. The worst I have ever had was great. Now keeping them that way is another bag of worms

Sparky