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Originally Posted by rootar
hell yes something we can all use agianist our GFs and Wives...
"Honey if you love me you would "love" me daily to promote a long and heathy life, and a step further would be to not argue or stress me...."
I wonder how well that will go over 
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You have to find a happy balance with someone who wants the same things you do in life. That is our problem as human beings. We rush into Marriage too quickly and end up finding out the hard way that the person we chose is not the best match for us. I did it twice before, and found out that it was a mistake plain and simple. Opposites attract is true, but opposites will eventually move away from each other. You cannot stop Nature. We need to be more exacting about searching and finding the right match for us. If you find that you are making excuses for or accepting flaws just to conform and not rock the boat, than you are making a big mistake. We can all find it within ourselves not to fight over the little things and even the big things if you work on your own self control. It is so much easier to talk through the issues and find peaceful resolutions to fix the problems. Especially if it is with someone you claim to love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Now I understand why OUR parents always tried to tell us to wait until you have had the time to experience life and gain some inner knowledge that will help us make better choices. It is the easiest way to live, but we get hastey and just cannot wait to live that dream.
If you have to beg and/or coax someone to get busy, then there are other issues that need to be worked out preventing them from moving forward. Work out your issues and keep playtime seperate. Never use one to control the other or it will cause even bigger problems. We can only control one side of the equasion, and that is ourselves. If the other side is not willing, then you are wasting your time. TIME is much too precious to waste on an unwilling partner.