A girlfriend learns the hard way.

[JERRY2KONE]

You want my opinion? Ok…

Shut the hell up. You’re not his wife. You’re not paying for the repairs. It’s absolutely none of your business what he does with his Jeep or his money. I know your type well… first it’s “Sell the Jeep because it’s costing too much money.” Then it’s “No, you can’t go spend the weekend with your buddies because I need you to take me shopping.” Then it’s “Oh gee, honey… I’m pregnant. Gosh, I have no idea how that happened.”

You’re a DreamKiller. You kill a guy’s dreams, take away his future, tie him down with a fat mortgage and too many babies, and turn him into just another miserable guy wondering, “How the hell did I get here?”

Do you really want to help him? Here’s what you do… go to your local library (it’s a big building with books inside) and check out a couple of books on rebuilding engines. Read them, over and over, until YOU understand what needs to be done. Then help him get that engine out and rebuild it. Tie your hair back in a ponytail, put on some old jeans and get your hands dirty. Hand him wrenches, hold the light, pull the wire connectors apart, help him get the hood off… help him with anything he needs. When he gets tired, run inside and make him a hot lunch or dinner. Fix him coffee, hot chocolate, whatever he wants. (But NO beer. Beer is for when the job is done.)

Then when the day is over and you’re both exhausted from working on the engine, push him into a hot shower and jump in with him. Scrub his back, wash his hair, rinse him off, and dry him with fluffy towels still hot from the dryer. Then push him into bed and screw his ears off. Then get up the next day and do it all over again.

Make him realize that rebuilding an engine is a slow and methodical process. Make him realize that every step should be regarded as surgery; every step must be perfect… perfect torque, perfect fit, perfectly clean. If you run into a step that you just can’t figure out, ask for help from someone who knows what he’s doing. Are you cute? Put on a low-cut top, show some cleavage and go (by yourself) to the local Jeep shop, and explain to the guys that you are helping your boyfriend to rebuild his engine and neither of you can figure out this one little step, and do they have any advice…

Think it won’t work? Think again. We guys love to help cute girls, even if they have a boyfriend. (Hey, maybe you’ve got a sister, or girlfriend…)

But absolutely DO NOT whine or complain. Do not say a single negative thing. Not a single “Oooooo, I broke a nail.” If you break a nail, or cut your finger, or bang a knuckle, you just shut up and DEAL WITH IT. You should be a hopelessly optomistic, never-say-die cheerleader, encouraging him every step of the way.

That’s my opinion.

[JERRY2KONE]

Personally I think the reply is well worth posting up in here. If you start out answering to your girlfriend this early on it just gets worse with time. Look I understand her concern, but I bet he is not posting up in the Barbie site complaining about her spending her own money on a new purse or some rediculous proceedure to make her boobs bigger. If more partners were more willing to do just what was suggested maybe the divorce rate would not be so high across the nation. Finding someone who has similar interests to your own really does make a huge diffrence in how well the relationship works out over time. If your interests move in two diffrent directions that is exactly where the relationship is headed. Its a shame that so many of us do not find this out until it is too late. Thank God my wife is hugely supportive in whatever I decide to do with my spare time, and she never complains about me spending money on R/C, because I try to keep it reasonable.

[BrianG]

Originally Posted by JERRY2KONE

...Finding someone who has similar interests to your own really does make a huge diffrence in how well the relationship works out over time. If your interests move in two diffrent directions that is exactly where the relationship is headed. Its a shame that so many of us do not find this out until it is too late. ...

Agreed. However, some couples have interests that align early in the relationship, but one partner grows while the other stagnates. This is pretty common (know from experience).