A girlfriend learns the hard way.

[simplechamp]

Originally Posted by Finnster

Who knows on one post? Maybe she's just asking "experts" if they bought into a moneypit or not, and a long-winded overly-dramatic lecture to the chick that she should be fixing his crap car, washing his feet and meekly giving out blowies, just because she may have suggested the Cherokee is a flaming pile of Chrysler crap, may be a bit over the top

That's what I mainly took issue with. Sounds like the guy who responded is seriously projecting his own insecurities and issues with women. If a woman chooses to accept that role in a relationship that's one thing, but expecting it of them is totally different.

[JERRY2KONE]

Originally Posted by Finnster

I have no idea. Maybe the guy is an idiot and the GF is just waking up to that fact and trying to judge it before she dumps his ass, or perhaps he'll cool and she's a busybody fat cow trying to make him as miserable as she is.

Who knows on one post? Maybe she's just asking "experts" if they bought into a moneypit or not, and a long-winded overly-dramatic lecture to the chick that she should be fixing his crap car, washing his feet and meekly giving out blowies, just because she may have suggested the Cherokee is a flaming pile of Chrysler crap, may be a bit over the top

Ahhh don't be a Chrysler hater now. This was about a chick showing up on a Jeep site wanting support for her dislike of her boytoy putting so much work and money into a car, and not her. She would have done well if she posted up on a plastic surgery for girls site, but not where a bunch of redneck dudes are waiting for the deer to wonder by their tree stand, while thinking about the next project to lift their jeeps up to clear even bigger bolders. Wrong place at the wrong time.

[JERRY2KONE]

Originally Posted by simplechamp

That's what I mainly took issue with. Sounds like the guy who responded is seriously projecting his own insecurities and issues with women. If a woman chooses to take accept that role in a relationship that's one thing, but expecting it of them is totally different.

I do not think he was expecting anything of her, hence the post. Some youg girls learn very well if you start the teaching early enough. My wife believes and supports me just as suggested, because I return the favor whenever I am able to. Support goes both ways.

[simplechamp]

Sorry Jerry, but I cannot see any type of positive message in how he replied to her. We just have different opinions on the matter.

Originally Posted by JERRY2KONE

Ahhh don't be a Chrysler hater now. This was about a chick showing up on a Jeep site wanting support for her dislike of her boytoy putting so much work and money into a car, and not her. She would have done well if she posted up on a plastic surgery for girls site, but not where a bunch of redneck dudes are waiting for the deer to wonder by their tree stand, while thinking about the next project to lift their jeeps up to clear even bigger bolders. Wrong place at the wrong time.

I feel like everyone is drawing conclusions and making assumptions about her and her relationship off of just a few sentences. How do you know that her boyfriend is her boy toy? When did she complain about him not paying attention to her? When did she ask for support in anything? It seems to me that she was just asking advice on what would be best for her boyfriend to do to his truck and how much he would get for selling it. There's no context or background.




I guess one of the things that kind of bothers me is that if this was reversed and it was a guy talking about how much money and work his girlfriend was putting in to shopping or some other girly thing, the responses would probably be along the lines of "dump her". I highly doubt you'd get a response saying that he should just suck it up, read some fashion mags, go shopping with her, make her food, and that her shopping is "none of his business" all while calling him a "dreamkiller" and "turn (her) into just another miserable (girl)".

[JERRY2KONE]

Not me man. I would first be wondering how he could get up the courage to post up on a site full of men complaining about his girl buying handbags. I would say be a man and stop being a wuss. Grow some and set things straight. Things like this have to be on a somewhat even scale so the spending balances out. My wife has her hobbies and jewlery stuff too and I do not interfer in her decisions regarding those areas, and she does not interfer in my stuff either. Being in a relationship should never be about control on either side. Find the common ground and keep the playing field even. Don't be greedy or try telling her what she can and/or cannot do. If you have to go there, then you are already in trouble. Talk with one another and make sure that you listen to.

OHH, the good old days.

[Bondonutz]

I've ben a member of the JF for a couple years, very informative site. However the humor is next to non existant over there, I think thats why the intrest in a mildly funny post. I think some women need to learn their place, but most already know it. That lady might just be genuinely trying to help her old man but posting on the forum without his knowledge is like kicking him in the teeth IMO ?




Starting thread about a another weak thread ?

[E-Revonut]

JEEP = Junk Emissions and Electrical Parts. I owned one and know it to be true, otherwise it was a nice vehicle. I read through that whole thread and other than the OP and first reply it was all bable, I was hoping to see the OP return

[TexasSP]

I take the thread for what it is, a funny response to a random posting.

Harsh, yes, but what did she expect from a bunch of guys on an off road related forum, flowers and cookies?

I make no assumptions but it was entertaining. I will agree with one thing, if she is just a girlfriend and not a wife or fiance then it really isn't her place. Some women (not saying this one) do have tunnel vision when it comes to their expenditures versus yours. My wife is not one of these and we both have our hobbies/vises/etc.

My wife's friend was very critical of her husbands rc hobby until my wife had a talk with her. It was okay for her to spend her money on manicure, pedicure, purses, and other girly things but not him.

People on either side should remember a hobby is by nature a money pit and not something you should ever expect a return on. You do it because you love it and no other reason. Any off road vehicle will be a money pit plain and simple. If this is not something she can handle then maybe she needs a different type of man.

[SunnyHouTX]

A big Texas Amen to that Brian ^^^

I can't see how some took that Jeep post to be demeaning/misogynistic. At most, I think it was to the point, borderline harsh, but effective way of letting her know that he should spend his time and money on what he enjoys doing as HE pleases and not her. It was in no way a commentary on how crappy Jeeps are, just a recommendation to butt out of his hobby LOL

Gosh, looks like we've gone too soft and everybody needs to be talked to softly using PC terms and handled with kid gloves, and all that leads to misunderstandings and a total waste of time.

[BrianG]

Originally Posted by JERRY2KONE

...Finding someone who has similar interests to your own really does make a huge diffrence in how well the relationship works out over time. If your interests move in two diffrent directions that is exactly where the relationship is headed. Its a shame that so many of us do not find this out until it is too late. ...

Agreed. However, some couples have interests that align early in the relationship, but one partner grows while the other stagnates. This is pretty common (know from experience).

[TexasSP]

Relationships take work no matter what. I think if you share every interest together and have no differences it will get old quick. Just like having a girl that kisses your butt and her world revolves around you. Pretty soon it gets on your nerves, or at least with me it does. A little argument now and then is healthy in my opinion anyway so as things don't stay bottled up.

In the end it's a two way street with give and take all around.

[rootar]

Yea nothing like starting an argument with the girly to get her all worked up, the best part always comes later doesn't it Brian!

[josh9mille]

Funny how Frizzle posted this and hasnt been back since. Nice bait job Frizzle.....