Given that info, I'd go with the mega. Neus are great, but if its only bashing you are doing, the mega should be more than enough grunt and quality for your needs. For 6s A123, I'd say a motor in the 1800-2000kv range - 22/45 being my personal choice, though the short 22/35 still produces plenty of power I gather.
As for her-indoors, I think she will be very happy with the 9xl on 14.4v- just gear it for about 35mph according to the calculator. I would say it will perform better on a higher voltage, like 14 cells instead of 12, but Im sure she'll be more happy either way

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